people talking to other people it's really not complicated

Communication is one of the most frustrating and important aspects of relationships. Specifically I want to talk about people who seem to be incredibly frustrated with communcation. Their are people who approach communication with other people much like they approach walking on hot coals. I know all of us have met people like this, or have friends and family like this. But what is really getting me lately is a noticed arrogance that seems to go along with this state of mind. A pervasive attitude where it is assumed it isn't the responsibility of these people to express what they want, think, or feel. And what you do get out of them is anger when things aren't exactly as they think they should be, or if you say something they don't like or do something they don't like.

Now granted their are a lot of problems with someone acting like this, but I want to focus on the communication aspect. What I want to say is that if something bothers you then find a way to constructively address it. You need to sit that person or people down and talk to them. You need to make an effort or change. Do not hold other people accountable for your feelings because it is bullshit! It's time to accept adulthood and take responsibility for what only you have control over.

Some counter arguments I anticipate are, "Well aren't you doing the same thing by writing about this on the internet rather than approaching said people?" Yes, that is true. But from my perspective I am at least expressing these viewpoints and not just holding them in. Also I have approached some people with these ideas, it is hardly ever welcomed, though I will be the first to admit that it is not a good reason to not do it again. Not everyone is ready and open to deal with heavy shit all the time.

"What if those people just aren't comfortable with talking about personal stuff like that?" That is fine I can completely respect someone not feeling comfortable, for any reason, and not wanting to talk about it. I only take beef with that person then getting mad because other people don't anticipate their issues, or use other people as emotional punching bags because they can't express themselves in a healthy manner.

"You're an arrogant asshole!" That may be true, but please know that my only intention is to live a happy life that is free of regrets and full of meaningful happy healthy relationships. And I'd always rather know that someone thought I was an asshole, or arrogant than be friends with someone who doesn't have the guts to say what they really feel, because that is not really a friendship if you can't be honest with each other.

"What makes you qualified to say something like this?" No one is ever really qualified to tell someone else how to live, and I'm no different. I guess this is more of an explanation of how I want to live my life, and what personality traits I like the people surrounding me to share.